Comments for To Aspie or Not To Aspie https://toaspieornottoaspie.com Thu, 30 Jan 2025 20:59:53 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 Comment on Autistic Women and Facial Expressions by Ericka Clay https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/autistic-women-and-facial-expressions/#comment-49 Thu, 08 Aug 2024 22:12:01 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/autistic-women-and-facial-expressions/#comment-49

Thank you for this article! I giggled at the part about having a voice telling you when to smile. Hashtag story of my life.

This past year has been a journey in discovering my autism and finding peace. It helps to know there are other women out there who understand.

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Thanks for this article! I giggled at the inner voice telling me when to smile, because hashtag my life. This past year has been a journey in discovering my autism and finding peace. It helps knowing there are other women out there who understand!

]]> Comment on Friendships with Aspies are Different by Sarah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/friendships-with-aspies-look-a-little-different/#comment-6 Fri, 12 Jul 2024 16:51:38 +0000 https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/?p=96#comment-6 In reply to Ashley.

Thank you for sharing your story! It sounds like you and your friend have a strong bond. Thank you for being so understanding and for mentioning sensory issues – that’s something many autistic people struggle with but might not always voice. I hope that sharing our experiences will make friendships like yours more common.

]]> Comment on Friendships with Aspies are Different by Ashley https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/friendships-with-aspies-look-a-little-different/#comment-5 Thu, 11 Jul 2024 00:32:29 +0000 https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/?p=96#comment-5

I just want to thank you so much for this post. My best friend who is like a sister to me (my family has literally adopted her as their own), has Aspbergers, and has experienced the exact same things as you, and has had to mask for almost 40 years. Nn We have been best friends for over 10 years, and she didn’t find out until a few years ago. We struggled ALOT in our friendship when we first moved in together. I didn’t understand her, she didn’t understand me, and it got pretty ugly at one point. But we both didn’t give up on each other. I learned more about how she processes things and she learned more about how I process things. Even though we have to agree to disagree a lot, we are able to communicate so well now. She doesn’t have to mask in front of me, and I can be my total self with her!
I pray that you have a friend that comes along who you can be your complete self with. I can appreciate where she is coming from now with her sensory issues. And you know what? I’ve learned to enjoy going places that are quiet, without a lot of stimulation too! 🙂

]]> Comment on Autistic Women and Facial Expressions by Christine https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/autistic-women-and-facial-expressions/#comment-47 Fri, 20 Oct 2023 12:44:40 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/autistic-women-and-facial-expressions/#comment-47 Oh my goodness! I just found your blog and it so resonates with me! The eye rolling story is one I grappled with in the past and it was amazing to read someone else dealt with the same conclusion. I have been a teacher for over 20 years and recognized many qualities in myself, but avoided really asking the questions. After talking with my therapist, I do believe I’m on the spectrum but do not feel the need to have a confirmed diagnosis. It just explains so much of my personality and my challenges. It’s the first time in 44 years that I have been able to accept things that I have seen as personal deficits. I can see my brain just works differently and I need to work with it instead of against it. I’m learnknf to be mote accepting of myself. I look forward to following your blog!

]]> Comment on Obviously, I Missed the Obvious! by Deborah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/obviously-i-missed-the-obvious/#comment-55 Mon, 04 Sep 2023 01:15:13 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/obviously-i-missed-the-obvious/#comment-55 100% on flipping the script! It can take me a while to build a model of something, but after I’ve built the model/discerned the framework? I can quickly achieve accurate, complex-to-others understandings that are obvious to me but not others. So, though I may be slow in some of the up-front modeling stages, it pays off with just a little patience, for sure.

]]> Comment on My Son Doesn’t Want to Be Autistic by Deborah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/my-son-doesnt-want-to-be-autistic/#comment-56 Mon, 04 Sep 2023 01:10:13 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/my-son-doesnt-want-to-be-autistic/#comment-56 So much of this resonates so deeply with me, I don’t even know where to start. So I’ll simply say: I’m grateful to have found this post and this blog, and I’m going to plan to–after posting this!–just keep reading. Gratefully.

]]> Comment on Obviously, I Missed the Obvious! by actuallyautisticfemale https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/obviously-i-missed-the-obvious/#comment-54 Wed, 05 Jul 2023 02:25:20 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/obviously-i-missed-the-obvious/#comment-54 I’ve been thinking about this in relation to TV shows and books, like when they show you something and it’s supposed to be obvious what it means. I was reading a book that said something like “the murder weapon was next to an ax” and I was like, uh, OK, that’s where it was located. Turns out I/the reader was supposed to infer “they were going to chop up the murder weapon with an ax to hide it” and I didn’t pick that up AT ALL. (I guess I shouldn’t be a homicide detective?!) 🙂 Not so obvious (to me, at least!)

]]> Comment on Finding Balance: How an Autism Diagnosis Helped Me Be a Better Mom by Sarah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/finding-balance-how-an-autism-diagnosis-helped-me-be-a-better-mom/#comment-53 Wed, 10 May 2023 01:14:04 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/finding-balance-how-an-autism-diagnosis-helped-me-be-a-better-mom/#comment-53 In reply to Ely Shemer.

Thank you very much, Ely. Society seems to focus on all the things Autistics can struggle with, but we must remember that we also have many strengths. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

]]> Comment on Finding Balance: How an Autism Diagnosis Helped Me Be a Better Mom by Ely Shemer https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/finding-balance-how-an-autism-diagnosis-helped-me-be-a-better-mom/#comment-52 Wed, 10 May 2023 00:40:42 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/finding-balance-how-an-autism-diagnosis-helped-me-be-a-better-mom/#comment-52 Nice one!.
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This is a powerful article about the strengths of autistic mothers. By prioritizing self-awareness and setting personal boundaries, they can be better mothers and provide stability and security for their children. Well said!
Ely Shemer

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