Comments on: What’s Tone Got to Do with It? https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/ Sun, 16 Apr 2023 14:42:13 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Sarah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-46 Sun, 16 Apr 2023 14:42:13 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-46 In reply to actuallyautisticfemale.

Still, that is a high number. Amazingly, what we say doesn’t take up at least 90% of communication. I mean we say what we mean. So, autistics still have a long way to go in educating people on this. Just listen to our words! That’s it! LOL

]]> By: Megan https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-45 Fri, 27 Jan 2023 03:18:00 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-45 Something I’ve learned over the years is that just because a person’s neurotypical doesn’t mean they are any better at communication than an Aspie. They may pick up on certain nonverbal things we don’t, but that’s about it. But even then it depends on the person.

Also, opening gifts in front of people is one of the most nerve racking things to me. lol

]]> By: actuallyautisticfemale https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-44 Wed, 14 Dec 2022 17:27:08 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-44 In reply to Sarah.

OK, I did some digging and thankfully it’s only like 55% nonverbal! Apparently people used to say it was 93% (!) but that wasn’t really true: https://www.pgi.com/blog/2020/03/how-much-of-communication-is-really-nonverbal/

]]> By: Sarah https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-43 Mon, 12 Dec 2022 22:22:05 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-43 In reply to actuallyautisticfemale.

Oh, wow. If that statistic is correct, we ARE screwed! Sometimes it does feel like a lost cause for autistics. We can educate and bring awareness but will people ever really be able to get past their natural way of communicating with us? Maybe after getting to know us individually but it’s tough to get to that point.

]]> By: Autistic Women and Facial Expressions – To Aspie or Not to Aspie https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-42 Mon, 12 Dec 2022 21:52:38 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-42 […] face and tone of voice never clearly expressed my excitement about a new gift when I was a child. And the list goes […]

]]> By: actuallyautisticfemale https://toaspieornottoaspie.com/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-41 Wed, 07 Dec 2022 08:06:49 +0000 https://sarah-reade.com/website_037f7199/whats-tone-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-41 YES. I once heard the obnoxious statistic that communication is something like only 20% what you say and 80% how you say it/body language/etc. We’re screwed from the start!

This totally explains why Christmas gift-opening was so draining for me in my family…the forced “OMG I LOVE IT!” followed by some detail. Now I spend Christmases alone or with one other person and it’s much better. I’d much rather open a gift alone and write a thank-you card!

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