What’s Tone Got to Do with It?

The natural communication style for autistics tends to take a straightforward approach. We know what we want to say, and we say it. But there’s more to communicating than words for non-autistics. Words are just one piece of the puzzle, and the non-verbal communication accompanying a verbal message can significantly influence how others interpret theContinue reading “What’s Tone Got to Do with It?”

Stimming in the Office

Although everyone stims to some degree, it’s necessary for autistics. Stimming helps us regulate our emotions and relieve anxiety. But in the workplace, our stims can distract coworkers – drawing unwanted and unnecessary attention. Not all workplaces are a safe environment for autistics to be our authentic selves. Our social challenges often cause our coworkersContinue reading “Stimming in the Office”

Autistic Girls Don’t Devour Books, We Befriend Them 

My mom often related my childhood reading habits to devouring food. From my mother’s perspective, I was speeding through books as though my eyes were a machine with a conveyer belt tongue feeding me one after another. Convinced I wasn’t actually reading them, she required me to write book reports to prove I retained theContinue reading “Autistic Girls Don’t Devour Books, We Befriend Them “

Autism, Depression, and Interacting in a Neurotypical World

Along with my autism diagnosis, I received another diagnosis: depression.  I don’t remember when I started my personal battle with depression. It always seemed to be there – like those memory balls on Inside Out tinged with the color of emotion. Most of my memories are tinged with blue.  It was a constant companion.  SinceContinue reading “Autism, Depression, and Interacting in a Neurotypical World”

I’m NOT Fine, Thank You. How are You?

As an autistic person, I hate the question, “How are you doing?” When I say that I hate the question, think Grinch-loathes-Whoville-and-Christmas level hate. Seriously, it’s a horrible question. Why haven’t neurotypicals figured this out yet? As most autistics do, I learned about the insanity of this question the hard way. People may ask thisContinue reading “I’m NOT Fine, Thank You. How are You?”

Task Interruption at the Office: Hell on Earth for Autistics

We all know that interrupting someone is rude. Our parents taught us that. Our teachers taught us that. It’s frustrating to be engrossed in a task or conversation and be interrupted. Just about anyone, neurotypical or neurodivergent, is irritated on some level. I envy the person that can pick up a conversation with, “Now whereContinue reading “Task Interruption at the Office: Hell on Earth for Autistics”

What Does Identity Language Choice Mean for an Autistic?

Is LinkedIn promoting its polling feature? I must have missed the memo. All I see as I scroll through LinkedIn these days are polls. Polls about leadership and jobs and benefits. Polls about inclusion and interviews and, well, it turns out you can make a poll about any topic. Just scroll through your LinkedIn feed;Continue reading “What Does Identity Language Choice Mean for an Autistic?”

Why Don’t They Believe I’m Autistic?

My gynecologist said it first. But she was not the last. Everyone I discuss my diagnosis with has a similar response: “You don’t look autistic.” What do people expect to see when they look at an autistic person? Autism is so integral to who I am that their disbelief is hurtful. I was diagnosed withContinue reading “Why Don’t They Believe I’m Autistic?”